Once caught in emotional people can’t extricate themselves, knowing that it does not have the results still can not get out of its shadow. How is no longer plagued by the old friends, eight trick quit Old Valentine. Ideologically recognize that you will not have the results. Delay continues, it will only increase the suffering of each other.
Keep the distance
If you work together, you want to use the honorific speech for him. To leave the place you used to go to stop his concern. If you temporarily forget that he is a normal, you need time, but remember not to date him or call. Avoid with you, if possible, adjustable department or look for another job. Distance and time can dilute the feelings between.
Learn to express your feelings
If you are the person who is introvert or strong-willed, and is reluctant to express his sense, you need to learn this. Do a suppressed grief, it says, or write it, so you can make your pain and give vent to some extent, to make you feel comfortable.
Do not make excuses for yourself
Complexity of the feelings of our own is that sometimes it is difficult to grasp, love burst hate to burst. All the truth and the conflict also are understood that is unable to control their feelings. Even often find an excuse for their behavior and self-deception. Remember not to borrow some special days, such as birthdays, Valentine’s Day.
Clean-up items related to his
See things think the situation is only human. A little gift can also cause your fond memories, happiness yearning. In short, every item can be affecting your heart, to arouse you miss him. Therefore should forget his best to destroy some of the items related to his or covered up.
Mobilize our own psychological defense mechanism to balance your state of mind
Psychological defense mechanism when a psychological setbacks or difficulties, he uses many ways to cope with and adapt to, such as: the action taken to go directly to deal with the problem, negative evade or childish way to deal.
Psychological defense mechanism almost everyone unknowingly used, it is subconscious, but we do not realize. In our living environment, and always have many setbacks and difficulties, if they can not take direct action to deal with to cope with the need to rely on psychological mechanisms and measures to adapt, it is a normal and healthy psychological phenomenon.
Participate in some outdoor activities and social activities
Social interaction can help you get rid of the current predicament. Beautiful outdoor scenery can make you feel happy and regulate mood. Know some new friends also help you to shift his attention.
To do some things that you really care about or are interested in
The feeling to bring you sweet and warm, there is nothing can be able to contend with, but the things that you are really interested in. Engaged in the work you love will give you huge fun, so as to compensate for the joy you have lost due to the termination of a relationship.
Change that will affect you confident behavior and appearance
Termination of a relationship can make you feel unhappy, low self-esteem, depression. And lose the confidence of the future. At this time, you can do some modification and beauty, or do some of your good work, so as soon as possible to help you restore confidence, to find self-worth.